Husband put down whatever you are doing now and listen to this khutbah jumaat..very good for your soul as the country will prosper if all wives are happy:)
God instructs men to be nice to their wives and treat them well to the best of their ability:
"...And live with them in kindness.." (Quran 4 :19)
The Messenger of God said,The most perfect believers in belief is the best of them in character.The best of you are those who are the best to their women."(1) The Prophet of mercy tells us that a husband's treatment of his wife reflects a Muslim's good character,which in turn is a reflection of the man's faith.How can a muslim husband be good to his wife? He should smile,not hurt her emotionally,remove anything that will harm her,treat her gently,a nd be patient with her.
Being nice includes good communication. A husband should be willing to open up, and be willing to listen to his wife.Many times a husband wants to air frustrations (like work).he should not forget to ask her about what annoys her her (like when children would not do their homework etc). A husbnad should not talk about important things with her when he or his wife is angry,tired or hungry. Communication,compromise, and consideration are the cornerstone of marriage.
Being nice includes encouraging one's wife.The most meaningful admiration comes from a sincere heart that notices what really matters - what the wife really values.So a husband should ask himself what she feels most insecure about and discover what she values. That is the wife's sweet spot of praise.The more the husband compliments it,the more the will admire it, the more on target this healthy habit will be. Kind word are like " pandainya wife i" "amboi cantik betul hari " "you masak memang tak de orang boleh lawan"
Human being are imperfect.The Messenger of God said, "A believing man should not hate a believing woman. If he dislikes something in her character,he should be pleased with some other trait of hers.'(2). A man should not hate his wife because if he dislikes soemthing in her, he will find somehing he likes about her if he gives it a chance. One way to be aware of what he likes in his wife is for the husband to make a list of a half dozen things he appreciate about her.Marriage expert recommend that one be as specific as possible and focus on character traits - just as the Prophet of Islam recommended , not just what she does for the husband. For example, a husband may appreciate the way she arranges his clean laundry, but the underlaying character trait may be that she is thoughtful. The husband should consider admirable traits such as being compassionate,generous,kind,creative,gentle, cheerful so on. A husbans should give himself some time to construct this list, and review it in time of conflict when he is most likely to feel averse towards his wife or when he dares to think about having an affair with another women!!! As the fact is the wives got everything and he need not to look for another woman.
Conflict in marriage is virtually inevitable and it leads to lot of anger.Although anger is one of the most difficult emotions to manage,the first step step toward controlling it can be learning how to forgive those who hurt us. Yet forgiving is another most difficult task to do and this is something that we need to find within ourself.